Thursday, January 10

that which has been seen...

Okay, I've got a gripe! And before anyone decides to bash me for my gripe, please read through the entire post. Then - and only then - if you still want to bash me.....go for it!

Where I work we have three buildings that are connected to each other by breezeways. I work in the building in the back behind the main building. Pretty much everything that serves the entire site is located in the main building - the cafe, coffee bar, smoker's lounge, security office, etc. - so when we want something we stroll through one of the breezways to get to it.

And that's where I was today.....when I saw it. You know what? That which has been seen can never be unseen. It's a pity, really. I was walking back to my cubicle with my yummy spiced chai tea in hand and up ahead there she was.

Picture this. White t-shirt, several sizes too big, with what looked like an also too big khaki fishing vest over the top. Black sweatpants that were really too short to be pants but too long to be capris. And these gawd awful fuzzy pink slipper looking shoes, sans socks. I swear they really were slippers but didn't get close enough to validate my guess. All of this was being worn by a fellow working "professional". And it isn't even Halloween. Jeez, oh man! C'mon!! Just because you're fat doesn't mean you have to come to work dressed like you literally just rolled out of bed.

I know some of you are thinking I'm bashing on fat people, but I'm not. There's a huge difference between being "fat", "big", "obese" or "overweight". No matter what you weigh, your height, your shape, or any other physical feature.....it DOES NOT give you the right to dress like a slob. Especially when you're at work.

So there's my gripe. And as Lesley says - my blog, my rules!

12 comments:

kilax said...

Hmmm. Did she oversleep her alarm clock and then sleepwalk to work in her pj's? Because I can't think of any other explanation! ;)

Sometimes I feel like a slob at work, even though I try to dress nice. I am a bit bigger, so I never feel like I look nice :(

Sizzle said...

i'm the first one internally citing perfect strangers for fashion mistakes. and slobby dressing, especially at work, is unacceptable. it always makes me think that those people must not care about themselves very much. it's like they gave up. it's hard to find cute and affordable fashions for overweight people (don't i know it!) but it's not an excuse.

someone needs to slip her "what not to wear" tape or book!

bgathen said...

overweight does not justify slovenly. weight had nothing to do with attractiveness either. Obviously this person has very low self esteem and holds herself in low regard. Have some pride. Seriously. Gripe justified.

Hilly said...

Oh honey, you're not "fat bashing", you're "what the fuck are you wearing?" bashing....and that is perfectly fine.

This chubby Plumparella agrees!

Marni said...

I'm on your side 100% -- even when I was obese I tried my best to always dress appropriately.

Nilsa S. said...

I guess it all depends on the expected work dress at your company. At my company, we are uber casual. If I come to work in anything other than jeans or khaki/cargo pants, people either think I'm interviewing elsewhere or have a hot date (neither of which are normally true). Guess I'll have to go stealth in and out the front door to avoid you and your commenters. :-) (Kidding, I'm only sloppy once in a while and never "that" bad).

BTW, I come to you by way of Sizzle.

Freak Magnet said...

{:-( I worry all the time about the image I project as a Big Girl.

There's a show out now called How to Look Good Naked, and it's about Big Girls. I watched one episode, and I think it's one reality show that I could enjoy. In any case, clothing makes a BIG difference in how you look. I'm learning that.

Groove said...

MMmmm. Fat Bottom Girls...the other white meat.

Holy fuck I'm glad I didn't see that.

Why do men never have low self esteem? When I don't shave or get a haircut, I couldn't give a shit.

jenny cook said...

that has nothing to do with being fat, but more to do with being retarded and dressing like you picked out clothing in the dark.

i've got chub, but i still try to look nice - geesh. i don't need to give anyone more reasons to talk about me! hahahaha!

Whiskeymarie said...

Yeah- when did "slippers as shoes" become okay?
It's bad enough at the grocery store, but at WORK? C'mon! Would the tiniest bit of effort kill them?

It's really just lazy.

Liss said...

OMG...I think I would have had to say something like "What the hell were you thinking when you got dressed? This is not a costume party!"

Terri said...

I always wonder if people have mirrors. It's pretty simple really to just look in the mirror!!! Love ya Chica!!!